Stress is a universal experience. 

Let’s face it, it’s not possible to have a completely stress fee life, right? Or do you know something I don’t! 

I do know through my numerous conversations with blokes that for many men, stress develops in to a silent burden.

Tons of men tend to internalise their stress.

Do you recognise when you’re internalising your own worries and fears? 

Internalising is when emotions and struggles are bottled up rather than expressed.

 

The Weight of Suppression

Men are often conditioned to “tough it out” or “push through” challenges.

If you carry the belief that expressing emotions is a sign of weakness the risk may lead to feelings of frustration, sadness, or anxiety are buried rather than addressed.

Over time, this suppression can manifest in various ways, including:

• Emotional Disconnection:

Feeling numb, distant, or unable to connect with loved ones.

• Physical Symptoms:

Headaches, muscle tension, fatigue, or even chronic illnesses.

• Mental Health Struggles:

Increased risk of anxiety, depression, and burnout.

 

As you read this and scan through the statistics below, take a moment to reflect if you get stuck in suppression and how it may impact your wellbeing. 

In Australia, the statistics around men’s mental health are particularly concerning.

According to Beyond Blue, one in eight men will experience depression, and one in five will experience anxiety at some stage in their lives.

Men make up an alarming 75% of all suicides in Australia, with an average of six men taking their lives every day.

These figures highlight the urgent need to address internalised stress impact on men’s mental health.

The Impact on Relationships

If you internalise stress, it’s likely that this will not only affect you, it will impact on the people around you.

It can ripple through relationships.

Suppressing emotions can affect how you communicate effectively with your partner.

If you’re holding back from talking abouyt your emotional health like many couples this can lead to:

• Misunderstandings
• Conflict
• Disconnection

 

Over time, this can erode intimacy and trust, adding to feelings of isolation.

Research conducted by Relationships Australia found that men who internalise stress are more likely to experience relationship breakdowns.

They describe how the inability to express emotions or seek support can create barriers to connection, making it difficult to navigate challenges together as a couple.

This not only affects romantic relationships but also impacts family dynamics, friendships, and workplace interactions.

The Good News!

Internalised stress doesn’t have to be a lifelong burden.

By taking proactive steps to address and manage stress, men, like you, can improve their emotional well-being and strengthen their relationships.

Here are some strategies to consider:

• Acknowledge Your Feelings: Recognise and accept all your emotions. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, frustrated, or vulnerable—these feelings are part of being human.

 

• Practice Emotional Awareness: Reflect on what you’re feeling and why. Journaling, mindfulness, or simply pausing to check in with yourself can help you gain clarity and perspective.

 

• Communicate Openly:  Yep, time to share your thoughts and feelings with someone you trust, whether it’s a partner, friend, or therapist. It can help you feel heard and supported, reducing the weight of stress.

 

• Seek Professional Support: If internalised stress feels unmanageable please reach out to a counsellor or therapist. Professional guidance can provide valuable tools and insights to help you navigate challenges and build resilience.                             

A Path Forward

Breaking free from internalised stress is not about becoming someone you’re not—it’s about embracing who you are.

By learning to express your emotions and seek support, you can cultivate a sense of freedom, confidence, and connection.

In Australia, organisations like Beyond Blue, Lifeline, and Men’s Line Australia offer resources and support specifically tailored to men.

These services provide a safe space to talk, share, and seek help without judgment.

You can also book an appointment with Men and Relationships Counselling. 

Come and chat with us! 

Remember:

Strength isn’t about carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders.

True strength lies in the courage to face your struggles, seek help, and grow.

You don’t have to do it alone—there’s a path forward, and it starts with taking the first step.