If you push down your feelings and tell yourself to ‘man up,’ ‘she’ll be right’ and keep going on with life, what happens?
Bottling your emotions will make you more confused, more frustrated, disconnected from your partner, your kids, your friends, yourself!
Despite telling yourself you’re fine, this internalising leaves you carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders.
If you find yourself bottling your emotions this episode is for you.
We’re breaking down how suppressing your feelings leads to cycles of stress, conflict in your relationship, and even harm your mental health.
We’ll talk about how opening up doesn’t make you weak – it makes you stronger, more present and more connected.
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TRANSCRIPT
Why Bottling Emotion Hurts? How-to-Start-Expressing-Yourself
[00:00:00] You know the drill. You push down some of your negative thoughts and negative feelings you tell yourself to man up, she’ll be right and just keep getting on with your life. And you find all sorts of things to do to distract you. But here’s the thing, bottling your emotions will not make you stronger. It will make you more confused and more frustrated, and you wonder why, and you’re disconnecting from your partner, your kids, your friends.
Even from yourself despite telling yourself you’re fine. Yet this internalizing can leave you carrying the weight of the world on your broad shoulders. So if you find yourself bottling your emotions in this way, this episode is for you. We’re gonna be breaking down why suppressing your feelings can lead to more stress, more conflict, and certainly harm your mental health.
We’ll talk about how opening up does not make you weak. It makes you more present and. More connected. So let’s unpack this together. Welcome to Man Talk, a podcast of real [00:01:00] conversations about life, your life, our life, and the emotional wellbeing of men. My name is Howard Todd Collins. I’m the Director of Men and Relationships Counseling.
Thank you for being here. Sit back and relax and join me as we unpack this bottling part of yourself in this latest episode of Man Talk.
Hello. Hello, dear listener, wherever you are, I hope all is going well in your world. I am going, okay. I’m sitting on a Sunday morning with the sun shining brightly through the window, even though it’s cold. We’re getting into winter and we’re still in autumn, so the autumnal wind and leaves keep falling around me.
And this particular topic that I’m gonna be talking to you about today is a topic [00:02:00] that’s close to my own heart. It’s partly to do with the fact that most men I work with talk. A bit about bottling of emotion, but it’s also a pattern that I grew up with, this kind of idea that we don’t talk much about what we’re feeling or thinking, particularly when it’s more negative related or more, emotional health related.
And I began to learn a lot in my own personal life, but also of course in my career of how to change this pattern within myself, but also with other men that I work with. What is it about emotional bottling? How does it tend to show up in you? What are you aware of in yourself? Suppressing or denying or ignoring your feelings as opposed to expressing them is part of this emotional bottling.
Now, what it tends to look like for people, and this may be something that resonates for you, not all of it, but maybe some of it. But when it shows up, it’s things like when you’re staying silent, when you’re upset, when you are brushing off arguments or comments or conflict that are going on in your life with friends or with your [00:03:00] partner.
Or if you’re just avoiding conversations about how you’re feeling altogether or your mood is changing, you may be aware that you get a bit more irritable and you’re more snappy at the people you care about, your partner, your kids, your friends, your family, and so on. Or you may find yourself withdrawing or just feeling numb.
And for some blokes, physical symptoms tend to show up a bit more. You’re more tired, more headaches, more tension in your body. So these are the patterns that we learn about, which we’ll go into shortly. It’s a self-protective pattern. It’s where your body or your mind or your nervous system is responding to the feelings of threat in some way, usually perceived or otherwise.
The problem, of course, you will know this, is that emotions that are being bottled. Tend not to go away. What happens is they linger beneath the surface. They will affect your mood, and your mental health and the patterns in your relationship. So if you find yourself getting [00:04:00] lost in these patterns, it can feel a bit like, like a lemonade.
Bottle. That’s sort of pressure building up over time, and if you’re shaking it, eventually it begins to spill. And the worst of it, of course, it begins to explode. So let me share with you some real life examples of how this tends to show up in men that I’ve met.
The next couple of sections or segments are really about just giving you some ideas of where some of these internalized thoughts and experiences that many blokes have often share with me when I’m doing my consultation work. But also they’re designed to get you to think about where you are in the way you internalize your thought.
Thoughts and your feelings. These are really common experiences that blokes go through. I want you to think about which ones resonate the most with you, and we’ll get to talking a bit more about what you can do about this as the [00:05:00] episode unfolds. But there are a number of really common examples of internalized thoughts and belief systems that end up.
Being bottled or being internalized in a lot of men’s minds. So this, there’s two segments to this. There’s quite a bit of stuff to think about. So I do want you to pay attention, but also be mindful of the fact that I’m not intending to box you into a particular category. These are just really consistent themes that show up.
All the time. Now, if you’re the kind of bloke that works very hard, I’ve got these kind of men that come and talk to me. Who are the overworkers? They are the overworked provider. These are the guys that are thinking, I am doing this for us, for the family, for their partner, and so on. So if you end up finding yourself working late hours or long days and you’re missing dinner with your family and your partner’s saying, why are you always working so much and you.
Tend to respond with a frustration. I’m doing it for us. Can you [00:06:00] not see why and how I’m working so hard? But deep down, you start to feel un unappreciated and exhausted, but you’re not sharing that. You’re just doubling down on the work you’re doing in your work life, your career, your business, or whatever you’re doing day to day.
Then there’s the guys that will say, I don’t have time for this kind of argument or blow up. Now, this is a common one for men with kids, particularly kids are very good at triggering all sorts of things in parents. If you’ve got a kid who spills something and your partner says, can you just help out with this please?
And you snap and you say, I’m just too busy. I haven’t got the time right now. And you start to feel the guilt for overreacting, but you tell yourself they don’t understand how much pressure I’m under. And then you have the silent commuter. This is the guy who is maybe driving home from work or even on a train or a tube or even a plane, and you start to feel the weight [00:07:00] of the day pressing down on you and you start to think to yourself, I’m so exhausted, but I can’t stop.
They are counting on me. So instead of looking forward to going home, you dread the possibility of more demands, more conversations about, I don’t know how busy you are, or how distant you’ve been. And then there’s the mask that men wear, which says, I’m fine. Your partner notices that you’re stressed out and maybe they ask you, are you okay?
And you’ll just brush it off. I’m fine. Just a lot going on at work. You don’t want to burden them with your struggles, so you keep it inside. Then there’s the guy that says, I’ll fix it myself. This is a classic one, particularly when or if you are asked to fix something that’s broken at home. And normally you know how to do it right.
You’ll dive into fixing something. It could be a broken chair, a broken lock, a broken window. It could be anything that needs a fairly, relatively straightforward fix, but you [00:08:00] find yourself. Just reacting, right? You’re already tired and exhausted, and when your partner suggests something like this, you say okay, I don’t need help.
She’s saying, go and get help. Get a professional to come in. Or a trader, you say, I don’t need help. I’ll do it on my own. Leave it to me, but you are reacting to this. You are actually frustrated with it. So these are a number really common kind of domestic examples. And there are a few more real life scenarios that are internalized in blokes.
This is getting into the mind of men and maybe your mind as well.
One of the challenging parts of this kind of se segment or section of the podcast that I’m talking about is there are so many different versions of emotional bottling, different kind of thoughts, different kind of feelings that are often internalized, but here’s a few more for you to [00:09:00] consider.
Have you ever had the thought. Why can’t they see that I’m struggling? I dunno. When this come up comes up in your mind, it can happen often late at night. Maybe you’re in bed thinking or maybe you’re working towards the end of a working day and you’re thinking that you’re exhausted and you’re drained, and you’re thinking to yourself, why does anyone not notice how hard I’m working?
Why don’t they appreciate what I’m doing for them? But you don’t say anything about it. You just keep going, hoping that your actions will speak for themselves. There’s the thought that I’m not good enough. This is a kind of spiral, spiraling thought that many blokes have after a long day. You come home to your partner, maybe the house is messy, or your partner seems upset about something and you think to yourself, I’m just working so hard and it’s still not enough.
What more can I do? But you won’t talk about this. Of course, you may withdraw into those thoughts feeling that you are failing in some way. [00:10:00] As a partner or as a provider, the classic one that many blokes have is that I am the rock. You know that you may see yourself as the one who holds everything together, when things like their F, when it feels like things are falling apart around you, but you think, I can’t let them see me struggle.
I need to stay strong for them. And this is the belief that stops you from opening up even when you’re at your breaking point or the classic one. How are you, is everything okay? You’ve been a bit quiet. And you’ll say I’m just tired. I. You do feel tired. You feel the tension, but you don’t know quite exactly how to explain what’s going on, so you shrug it off.
Yeah, I’m fine, just tired from work. There are other thoughts there deep down that you’re not feeling quite adequate or you’re not sure about how to fix some stuff, and so it feels easier to avoid the conversation. Then there’s the classic distractions, the phone [00:11:00] escape. You’re sitting on the couch with your partner.
You’re not engaging particularly well. You’re scrolling on your phone and they are trying to talk to you, but you are responding with things like, yeah yeah, good. Sounds good. So you’re physically there, but emotionally you’re checked out and you are using your phone as a way to avoid addressing any of the issues that are going on.
The relationship or even just within you, and this can happen with a TV or the phone or the laptop. Internalized struggle for many blokes is, I don’t know what to say. The silence of that is, I dunno what to even say or even know where to start even. Even if your partner’s bringing up any kind of issues that are going on in their life or in the relationship and you’re not sure because you feel the fear and some of the inadequacy of not knowing how to respond, so you sit in silence, not sure what to say in your head, you’re thinking, i’m just gonna [00:12:00] say the wrong thing. What happens if I make it worse? So you don’t say anything. And of course you hope the moment will pass. And this internal battle within all these kind of emotional bottling experiences is a really big deal if you are lying in bed next to your partner, replaying arguments.
Or imagining worst case scenarios in your head and you’re questioning your relationship or you’re questioning yourself, what if they are not happy with me anymore? What if I’m not good enough? But you won’t share those feelings or those fears. You end up bottling them all completely. Now, why do all these things matter, essentially?
Because you know the more you are bottling, it affects the way you feel about yourself and the world that you are in. It impacts your mental health and your physical wellbeing. So we know that suppression creates the barrier to intimacy, to trust and to the connection [00:13:00] with the people you love. So I want you to begin to recognize and start to address any of these patterns that are much more about emotional bottling.
I want you to start to identify them as a first step towards emotional health and wellbeing. It’s so important because it’s, it’s so common in blokes to do this because we are naturally, in some way wired to be much more internal in our emotional lives. But, to make sense of this a bit more, there are some reasons why this is happening.
So let’s spend a bit of time thinking about what are the reasons that you end up bottling. It’s partly to do with what we call meta emotion and also historical trauma in relationships and life that kind of shape the way you deal with your thoughts and your feelings. I.
Now meta emotion is basically [00:14:00] how you feel about your feelings. Now there’s a, a whole episode on meta emotion in the archives of the Man Talk podcast. I’ll put a link to it in the show notes. It’s worth. Going back to have a listen to that. This is basically where you have been raised in your own life and the messages you’ve picked up about certain kinds of emotions or feelings, right?
So feelings like sadness, or fear or vulnerability can be judged as being bad or weak. This is a belief system. That you may have grown up with in some form. So it makes it very hard to deal with emotions in a healthy way because it’s part of the way blokes bottle them up. So you, if you have a meta emotion response to something like a feeling, you’re saying to yourself I don’t want the feeling or I’m gonna judge the feeling.
So for example, if you’ve been taught that showing emotions makes you less of a man. You’re more likely to feel more ashamed or shame or embarrassment when the feelings come up. So you push them down instead, or you [00:15:00] may fear of what people think of you. If you are feeling something like a negative emotion, you are worried about seeing yourself as weak.
Or incapable. It’s also where this tough guy in mindset comes from. It is the man up thing. It’s to stay strong no matter what. And this mindset will make it feel like showing emotions is a some kind of failure. Another reason why men bottle it up and push them down, and some blokes over time because they’re so used at.
Bottling emotions over time, it becomes a habit and they stop recognizing what they’re feeling completely, so all their emotions are ignored. Now trauma is another part of the influence in emotional bottling trauma is any kind of deeply distressing or overwhelming experience that you may have had that leaves a lasting emotional impact.
It can come from a [00:16:00] all sorts of events of your, from a tough childhood, an abuse background. A painful breakup or being in the middle of your parents breaking up or losing someone you love or a health issue for yourself or someone you care about, or a loss of a job, or just overall feeling like you are unsupported during the most difficult times of your life.
Now for many blokes, trauma can feel like a real heavy weight, often that they carry silently, and it leads to feelings of anger and shame and numbness. It’s not just about what would’ve happened to you. It’s also most significantly about how it made you feel and how it still affects your thoughts, emotions, and relationships Today.
Now as we go through this segment, I want to encourage you to think about something if there are themes or issues that are now coming up for you through this episode that [00:17:00] you recognized or you are recognizing that are unresolved in you. You’ve not sought out help. I would encourage you to think about what it is that you need, maybe counseling or therapy, or a combination of that talking to your GP or talking to someone you trust, that you’re aware enough to know that there’s some unresolved or unfinished parts of your life that you know are affecting the way you deal with your feelings today or the way you are dealing with your relationship today.
There is a significant link between trauma and emotional bottling in men. If you are in Australia or in Melbourne or local to me and you wanna check in and book an appointment, all the details are on or in the show notes if you are elsewhere. Seek out what kind of counseling or therapy is there for you to start to deal with some of these emotions or feelings or experiences that you’ve not spoken about before.[00:18:00]
So this next segment begins to look at the link between trauma and emotional bottling in men.
How have you coped with tough or painful experiences you’ve had in your life? How do you cope with times that are overwhelming? Some blokes often feel like emotions such as fear or shame or anxiety or sadness of feelings that they don’t want to have, and they try and push them down. Or ignore them.
This is part of what bottling of emotions is all about. Now, if you remember, trauma is anything that has had a deeply distressing or overwhelming impact on your life. It’s left a lasting psychological emotional. Blueprint it’s common to feel like emotions in this sense are too much to handle, and to some degree, [00:19:00] emotional bottling is the best way to cope.
Many blokes tend to avoid talking about their feelings because they’re worried about how they’re gonna be perceived, but also they’re not always sure how they identify their emotional experiences. Anyway. And this other pressure that comes with it is the belief system that we should be strong and not vulnerable.
We should men up in a way. So this combination of experiences impacts even more the trigger to emotionally shut down if you tend to avoid your feelings altogether. This can lead to those feelings of being numb. It can feel like you’re just going through the motions of life without really feeling anything.
One of the impacts of, or the relationship between traumatic events and emotional shutdown is the struggle to regulate what it is you are feeling. So if you think about your own life, whether you’ve had childhood experiences that have been difficult, relationship breaks up, I. Breakups or your parents divorce [00:20:00] or career changes or major health issues, or any significant life events, all of which can disrupt your ability to process and express yourself.
What’s most important here is to know that when any feelings or emotions are not processed. They can just become overwhelming. The other link between trauma and emotional bottling is what we call internalized negative patterns. These are those negative thoughts that you have about yourself. Mainly self-criticism is part of it, that inner critic or the fear of being judged.
Or even that kind of experience that there’s something wrong with you or you feel inadequate. These are patterns that make it very difficult to open up, and so emotional bottling is the best way to cope. What’s most important here is how we break this particular cycle. Addressing emotional bottling requires self-awareness [00:21:00] and a willingness to confront your own emotional experiences and using tools or finding tools like increasing your emotional intelligence, going into therapy or counseling, or going into communication skills, workshops or personal development.
Courses will help you to process your own experience of your own life, including trauma and finding better ways or healthier ways to express yourself now whilst suppressing or bottling as a defense mechanism. We also know how it deeply impacts mental health. It often leads blokes or leaves blokes. A cycle of stress.
Now, we know from the research that blokes who bottle up their feelings are more likely to experience more anxiety, more depression, and even physical health issues like high blood pressure or heart disease. There can [00:22:00] be a kind of ripple effect that can lead to cycles of stress. And this includes diminished sense of self, like your self-esteem, but also a significant experience of isolation, which we’ll look at in a moment.
So bottle bottling of emotion creates a kind of feedback loop, and you may recognize some of this in yourself. This is how it often plays out. If you are suppressing your feelings, whatever they are. Frustration, sadness, fear, anxiety, worry. And you feel like you should be staying strong and you have an internalized belief that you should be avoiding burdening other people.
This will start to build up and it will include noticing any kind of physical and mental strain that goes with it. Unprocessed emotions manifest itself, often physically, headaches, muscle tension, or struggling to sleep well. This kind of added [00:23:00] strain also includes things like, a very busy mind overthinking or over anticipating the anxious mind, right?
And at the same time, you may start to see how your reactivity is increasing. So if stress is building up to a point where even the most mundane or minor inconveniences are triggering you. They’re triggering disproportionate responses like snapping your partner, or even being grumpy and irritable with people at work.
And then you can lead into avoidance behaviors where you make just turn to distractions like overworking or excessive screen time. And at the extreme, more alcohol or more substance use, all of which are delaying addressing any kind of root causes of what’s happening in your stress. And this reinforcement behavior includes things like avoidance, but also the temporary relief of [00:24:00] the avoidance, where you’re just distracted and you feel better.
Problem is that ultimately it leads to more stress because whatever’s being unresolved in you keeps piling up or keeps coming back. Now, this cycle of stress or de-stress has such an impact on the way a lot of men feel about themselves. I’m not sure about you, but if you are holding back and withholding all your feelings and pushing them down or suppressing them, it can lead to feelings of inadequacy or self-criticism.
And therefore a cycle of avoiding being vulnerable, opening up and talking about what’s happening for you, and reinforcing some of these negative beliefs, all of which lead a lot of blokes into this isolation of experience. One of the most damaging impacts of emotional bottling is the feeling of being alone.
And a lot of men feel this way. They pull away from people, they disconnect from the people they love. [00:25:00] They. Struggle to seek out support. Even with their partners. They won’t talk about stuff, and there’s a kind of reinforcement of that experience of being lonely. Now, as you are listening to this, I want you to be considering or reflecting on your own experience of emotional bottling and your own experience of any kind of cycle of stress.
You are getting locked into or you are getting lost in your own mind, and I want you to consider what kind of help you may need. You may already be talking about this with somebody else, either a counselor or a therapist, or you are talking about this with your partner, but if you are not. You are withholding and you’re just carrying it too much on your own.
I want to encourage you to reach out to anybody in your area, whether it be a psychologist or a therapist, or a counselor, or even just with your partner, and start talking about what you are learning about in terms of the. Influence or the impact of [00:26:00] emotional bottling. If you are in Australia and you wanna do some work on this the information around checking in with me or booking in a session with me is in the show notes, so please reach out.
So not only does this impact your own mental health and wellbeing, the emotional bottling experience also has a significant way of shaping your relationship with your partner.
As you have no doubt. Recognize through this particular episode suppressing your feelings, bottling your emotions creates all kind of barriers, right? Barriers for yourself, but also barriers between you potentially and the people you love, including your partner. Now, this kind of emotional bottling essentially means you end up shutting down on the outside of this.
This is where partners often make [00:27:00] assumptions that you don’t care. Or you have no empathy or you are just not interested, which of course in the relational sense leads to more misunderstandings and conflict, right? Baffling emotions makes it very hard to resolve your own issues. Let alone any issues going on in your life with your partner or in your life, in your family.
So if you are addressing issues more head on, you’ll avoid those kind of buildup of resentment over time. And this is where the kind of erosion of trust and in intimacy is really important because if you are more likely to be shut down or withdrawn when things are not going well. It’s more likely, and this is my experience of working with men and women that often women are very attuned to this.
They often will say that they will notice their partner and their changes in their behavior. They will notice the distance and the disconnection. They may often feel like they’re [00:28:00] walking on eggshells, not quite sure how to approach you. Now, the good news around this, of course, is if you are. Learning more about your emotional expression, you can then build better connections with the people you care about because essentially that kind of communicating will only strengthen your relationship.
Bottling emotions is a really common and harmful pattern that does show up in relationship therapy in couples counseling. It’s mainly because that when these feelings are suppressed, they just don’t disappear. They end up manifesting in certain patterns or behaviors, things like distance and conflict and disconnection.
And for men in particular, this is really important because the idea of getting better connected with your partner is about increasing your emotional intimacy, your capacity to hear, but also express feelings. So these common relational struggles like [00:29:00] withdrawing and disconnecting a part of the problem.
Or noticing if your mood is becoming more irritable, it can create more conflict in your relationship with people you love. If you’re avoiding difficult conversations, that withdrawing also creates patterns of conflict and resentment and emotional distance. If you are internalizing your stress and not talking enough, partners tend to assume there is something wrong with them.
But if you are experiencing more physical experiences like not sleeping properly or having headaches, for example, this will place more strain on your relationship with the people that you are caring about if you are becoming less present and therefore less engaged. The good news is, there is always opportunities.
There’s always a way of changing these patterns. So let me give you some simple, practical steps just as a way to [00:30:00] start.
Now here are some practical tips to help you to well start to express some of your emotional experiences. Now, there are six steps here. In fact, while there are five plus one more the first step. Is depending on how busy you are, we need you to make some space and time to start to reflect. Now that means that you have to have no distractions for approximately five to 10 minutes a day or.
Five to 10 minutes every second day. Most people, most blokes say to me, I’m just really busy. And when they’re not busy, they’re on the phone or they’re watching something on television, or they’re on the laptop, or they’re at the gym, or they’re riding a bike, or they’re going for a run, they’re all really [00:31:00] fine and important things.
This is a bit different. You need to build some self-reflection into your routine. And that is literally five to 10 minutes a day or every second day. That’s the first thing you have to do. So what do you do with that time? I want you to make a moment or create a moment where you check in with yourself and ask yourself these questions.
What am I feeling right now? And what is happening that makes me feel this way? And what do I need? The three questions, what am I feeling right now? What is happening that makes me feel this way, and what do I need? And I want you to be writing this down. That’s the third step. Now you can do this in your head and not write anything down, depending on how busy your mind is and what you do with your thoughts.
Those kind of self-reflective questions. What am I feeling right now? [00:32:00] How do I know or what’s happening? That makes me feel that way. What do I need? Can you just get lost in the busyness of your own mind? And you may well just think what’s the point? I’ve got better things to do. If you’re writing it down, you’re starting to pay some more attention to how you process your own feelings and maybe get some more clarity.
So the first step is space and time to reflect five or 10 minutes, ideally every day or every second day. Second step is those feelings, the question, what am I feeling right now? What is happening that makes me feel this way, and what do I need? Those are the three questions in the second step. Third step is to write them down, start journaling them.
You can put it in your phone if you want, or you can write them down in a, on a piece of paper or in a diary or a journal. And the fourth step is that I want you to start small, but I want you to start sharing some of your feelings with someone you trust [00:33:00] now. Ideally, your partner, if not a really good friend, and you can start sharing some of your feelings of the day or the week that you had because there is some value in you starting to talk more.
Start small. You can start with the frustrations of your day. The fifth step, when you start to engage with somebody and sharing what you are feeling, they will res, they will start to respond back to you and share their feelings with you about their experience of their day or their life or their week.
And if they are talking to you about their own emotions, you need to start to practice active listening. You need to start to listen with empathy and encourage that kind of mutual openness and sharing of a conversation. That is the fifth step. Those are the five steps that will begin to help you start to identify your feelings, share them.
[00:34:00] Practice the idea of communicating them, but also learning to listen and to understand with empathy. And that will begin to enhance your communication, but also your intimate engagement with someone you care about, including a friend, but also particularly your partner. The sixth step is if you are getting into trouble with this, if this is really hard or there are so many blocks going on that you’re bottling up and you’re finding it really tough.
Go and seek some support. If you’re gonna talk to somebody professionally, like a counselor or a therapist, or you may, join a, a men’s group, or you may start to do a personal development program, and I’ll tell you more about the program I’m offering shortly. It will help you to begin the conversation with someone by just thinking or saying, I’m getting stuck.
I want to be more expressive. I’m bottling my feelings. I’m not quite sure what they are. I’m getting in my own way. That is the first place to start. [00:35:00] Try and remember what you are doing here is beginning to understand that expressing your feelings is on a side of weakness. It’s a way of building strength, and if you start taking some steps, you’re not only improving your own wellbeing, but you’re also potentially creating a deeper, more connected relationship with the people around you.
Now, as always, we’ve covered a lot of ground in this episode. Now, for most of you or those of you who have been following me for a while, you will know that my passion is really about guiding blokes to understand their emotional health and their relationship skills. And healthy communication is very much part of this, which is why I’ve created a mini course.
It’s called From Shut. Down to communication for relationship boosting strategies for men. [00:36:00] Now it’s for men, maybe like you who want to communicate with more openness, more clarity, and more confidence, including understand how to change this experience or pattern of emotional bottling. It’s designed for men who want to increase emotional intimacy and break through some of these negative patterns that we’ve been talking about today.
And of course, it’s for BLO who. Happier, more secure relationship, and to be more in tune with yourself. Now, the course has two lessons. The first lesson is called Navigating Distractions. It is the skills of being more present and aware in your relationship. And lesson two is called Communicating with Confidence.
It’s a step-by-step guide to connect and engage with your partner. Now, these relationship skills are the same strategies that are used in my relationship therapy and my individual consultations. They take. [00:37:00] Somewhere between six to eight sessions just to begin any real progress in therapy or in counseling.
That’s an investment of around about $1,500 or more. Now, I know that you wanna see some changes in this when it comes to your own wellbeing and maybe your relationship. So this program at the moment, the mini course, is only now available at $49 at this time. So if you are ready to start doing some work on yourself.
The information about the course is on a link in the show notes that’ll take you to more information about the program itself, but also how you can check out and sign up for the course itself. Now, if this episode does spark more interest in your own personal development, there is also a booking button in the show notes about how you can work with me one on one.
Speak. Thank you for listening. If you do what you hear, please tell your mates. Give me a review wherever you found the podcast. [00:38:00] That really helps and I’ll catch you again in the next episode of Man Talk.
