What’s hiding under men’s anger?

Men's Anger

Do you know which are the most commonly recognised emotions for many men?

It’s frustration and anger.

When I consult with blokes, many present their first emotional responses to a myriad of challenges in life. Often it’s expression of frustration and anger.

Men talk about a variety of issues in counselling such as:

  • Losing a parent
  • A rude boss
  • Tiredness
  • Caring for elderly parents
  • Ongoing physical Injury
  • Recurring physical illness
  • Diagnosis of Mental illness
  • Parenting
  • Managing divorce and separation
  • Negotiating access to kids
  • A bully at work
  • Frequent relationship conflict
  • Loss of intimacy
  • Struggling with fatherhood
  • Unrealistic demands at work
  • Their commute to work
  • Missing out on a promotion
  • Driving
  • Time for self
  • Infidelity and betrayal
  • Financial problems
  • Lack of confidence

Does ‘frustration’ and ‘anger’ alone sum up the full experience of these significant problems?

I think it’s only half the emotional story!

Whilst feeling frustrated or angry is a recurring part of a man’s emotional repetoire, there are many guys who feel a little short changed when it comes to making sense of their problems though these feelings alone.

This is because being frustrated and angry is rarely enough to soothe the pain.
Most importantly,  these feelings can add more shame, and then more frustration and anger!

Other feelings often accompany frustration and anger. They bubble away under the surface. However, they need more attention.

Recognising the underlying feelings behind frustration and anger significantly helps men heal their wounds.

What’s underneath your frustration or anger?

There are many possibilities. Below are a few.

Men's Anger

It may seem a tad daunting looking at the list above.

Do you notice how these feelings are kind of ‘layered’?

When you’re feeling frustrated or angry check in with what else is going on underneath.

Struggling with any of this?

Give me a call.

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