Where do you put your thoughts? – Part 1

I’m going to generalise a little! We men like to organise, fix, solve and put stuff neatly in their place. (There are many man caves beautifully systemised and ordered, similar to a well-stocked tool shed!). When it comes to balancing our thoughts and feelings most of us have a kind of filing system of the […]

Men generally compartmentalise their emotions in order to protect themselves from feeling vulnerable. Emotional compartmentalisation involves shifting your focus to a situation and suppressing feelings that emerge. It’s when we push difficult feelings aside, sweep them under the carpet and move on. A blokey term that encapsulates this is “suck it up and move on”! […]

Tough Men Many blokes like to see themselves as strong and tough. Maintaining physical fitness is a really important activity for our overall wellbeing. I remind myself of this every time I feel my face reddening, sweat pouring and gasping for breath at the gym! Being strong and tough, however, seems to cause great confusion […]

Are you avoiding, denying or distracting yourself from feelings? Is it a struggle to perform at your best, or relate well to people that matter?  It may be a sign that your emotional muscles need a good work-out. Emotional muscles are explained in more detail here in a previous blog. Research points to higher emotional […]