Are you really just feeling frustration and anger?
Frustration and anger are emotions familiar to lots of men.
Maybe we should have a World Frustration and Anger Day!
Many guys express frustration and anger as their first response to a variety of life experiences such as:
- Losing a parent
- A rude boss
- Caring for elderly parents
- Ongoing physical Injury
- Recurring physical illness
- Diagnosis of Mental illness
- Managing divorce and separation
- Negotiating access to kids
- A bully at work
- Frequent relationship conflict
- Loss of intimacy
- Struggling with fatherhood
- Unrealistic demands at work
- The commute to work
- Missing out on a promotion
- Time for self
- Infidelity and betrayal
- Financial problems
- Lack of confidence
Does ‘frustration’ and ‘anger’ adequately cover the true experience of these problems?
Surely it’s only half the emotional story!
Is it easier to be frustrated or angry?
For many men, frustration and anger are a regular part of their emotional repetoire. Yet these feelings rarely stand alone.
Often there are a vast array of other feelings under the surface.
If as men we are able to experience good self care, heal and soothe the wounds that life can bring, we need to recognise the underlying feelings that accompany frustration and anger.
Men have an abundance of other feelings going on inside. Do you?
What’s underneath your frustration or anger?
There are many possibilities. Below are a few.
It may seem a tad daunting looking at the list above. However, it’s really a matter of checking in with a few of these other emotions that are appropriate to your life experience.
When you’re feeling frustrated or angry check in with what else is going on underneath?
Struggling with any of this? Give me a call.