Or, more accurately, another version of ourselves.
The mechanics of anything is a description of the steps taken to affect change, a change of dynamic, from one version to another. The prime element in this process is that of doing, of acting out something, which is different (that beast again) to the way we usually do it.
Even so, if you were asked to smile on a miserable day you’d probably be justified in saying “I just don’t feel like it, it feels unnatural”.
Equally, try saying aloud the word ‘bubbles’ when you’re feeling angry. It will probably feel incongruent, or even better, change anger to bubbliness!
However, mechanics doesn’t consider how you are feeling; it is just an action with (hopefully) a meaningful outcome.
Just as in the idea of ‘fake it till you make it/first do it, then understand’ (read more about this here), it’s the external behaviour of a smile that can affect how we feel inside. Acting out a positive interaction, for example, with a colleague can improve what has previously been experienced as conflict.
I reckon we all love good stage or film actors precisely because of the way they make us feel. Imagine if we could make our good selves feel better because of the way we act.
Probably weird, a little uncomfortable or unnatural? Well, of course it would, because the first way of clasping hands for us non-ambidextrous types is our original, default way, an age-old habit.
However, here’s the good news.
Such is the mechanics of change.
I’m going to go out on a limb and suggest that most of us don’t aspire to be ambidextrous in our search for well-being, but that we might apply those mechanics and actions to the things which do matter to us.
After all, as one great Elizabethan playwright and actor said,