Social media and associated smart devices allow us to pretty much do anything and everything, anywhere at any time, seemingly privately but maybe not always discretely.
The possibilities appear endless.
Boundaries and limits around social media use are hot topics of conversation amongst teachers, parents and relationship experts. And rightly so.
There are some upsides for relationships. For example:
Habitual use of social media within families and relationships is causing disharmony and disruption. The harm is both subtle and dramatic.
Here are some examples.
These are real examples of people, relationships and families who for one reason or another lost perspective, lost relationships and sadly lost themselves.
Screen time on whatever device creates unhealthy and tragic distractions.
Check out 5 ways Social Media harms relationships.
Nurture means care and attention to our own needs and the needs of others. Cultivating nurture in relationships requires all our senses including eye contact, body language, scents and sounds.
Relying upon the pounding of a keypad with our thumbs and fingers limits our unique capacity to foster meaningful, caring and nurturing relationships.
Some people are missing out on the power of the spoken word and the ability to listen to the subtle cues of people’s sounds and mannerisms.
Constant messaging as a means of communicating reduces these skills of emotional and social connection.
All the emojies in the world will fail to truly represent genuine social interactions.
Being exclusively available to be with your partner, and/or family, free from all distractions on a regular basis, is the hallmark of growing connections in relationships.
The latest tweets from the Kardashians, President Trump or all the trending topics that spew into the world fail in comparison with appreciating the people that matter most to us.
Experiencing stress, worry, sadness or fear is a natural part of life. The ability to share these emotions is a cornerstone of intimacy and vital in helping families, relationships and communities stay healthy and well.
If we ignore or escape these feelings consistently by getting seduced into a digital world we can lose ourselves and our loved ones forever.
Numerous studies are showing that too much screen time impairs structural and functional parts of our brain.
The changes in the brain influence emotional processing, attention, decision-making and thought control. These capacities are vital to the way we build and sustain relationships.
In my research for this post I was amazed to discover that new brain disorders are being attributed to digital media use. Here are 5!
Revisiting limits, rules and boundaries around social media use is a regular task for many of us from time to time.
Consider that over-use of social media may also be a symptom of unresolved personal or relationship problems.