I hope to avoid jargon and self-promotion. There are enough links surrounding this blog to help you with that!
For a living, I listen to and talk with people, mainly men and those in relationship with them. I hear people, I consult with people, I challenge people, I mentor people, I coach people, and I hold their stories and gently place it back on their laps for reflection.
I hear stories about great loss, of people, of careers, of things, of self. I hear stories about avoidance, distraction and various other forms of escape from communicating and expressing needs, wants, thoughts, feeling and desires.
I hear the voices of self-judgment, rationalisations, high demands, unreasonable expectations, self-hate, and more internal chatter that seems to create a huge struggle for a better relationship with self and others.
In contrast, I witness people’s immense personal growth, self-acceptance, willingness to change, clarity of purpose, motivation to shift forward, all right in front of me on the chair opposite!
I see their courage to look deep inside in order to become free, to be the person they want to be and live the life they want to have, life changing stuff.
They are men like me (and you!).
They are people searching for a happy life, a fulfilling relationship, less stress, more fun, more love, more sex, less conflict, better health, more positive feelings, less negative feelings, a rewarding job, a successful business, a dynamic career, a healthy family and more.
Essentially they are people who are searching for a much better relationship with themselves, their past, their partners, their kids, their work colleagues, and their families.
In my life and business I take a peak within, and I teach and support people how to do the same.
I meet with men, women and couples looking for a comfortable chair to sit on for a quiet, private, discrete and safe chat.
Whilst Psychotherapy and Counselling is about looking within to find the answers, initially we find out what’s stopping us from seeing the answers in the first place.
Men in particular tend to look for a fix, a step-by-step manual, a tool, a book or a course to find a solution, and too often place a huge demand on themselves that they should be able to fix it and move on.
Sometimes they demand this of partners, their friends, children, and me but predominantly they demand it of themselves.
Often men do all this alone, silently, passively, aggressively, begrudgingly, loudly, confusingly, awkwardly, anxiously, bravely, humorously, courageously and more.
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