A number of guys have expressed to me that “talking about their emotions is a bit like going to the dentist”. THE DENTIST!
I hate going to the dentist!
I can’t think of anything worse than having a latex glove shoved into my mouth let alone lots of shiny surgical instruments poking and prodding.
There’s the sound of the drill! It fills me with dread as it delves deeper in to dark cavities!
I have experienced too many latex covered hands wrestling with stubborn wisdom teeth, unreceptive rotting teeth and fragile broken fillings.
And then there’s the student dentist (unbeknown to me) who called his supervising professor because one of those shiny tools got wedged between two unwilling wisdom teeth!
I hate the sounds and smells of everything dentistry.
Dentists bring out the fear in me. This manifests in major avoidance and a high degree of melodrama!
Forgive me in advance for stereotyping!
There are indeed certain masculine features when it comes to emotional expression.
Partners of emotionally unavailable men express commonly held feelings about their relationship. Such as:
Men live a life of feelings about a wide variety of things. For some it’s an active yet hidden world of emotion.
Fear can manifest in avoidance which prevent guys recognising the need for change or help. Similar reasons I put off a dentist visit!
More often than not counselling and dentist visits are rarely as bad as imagined.
Understanding blocks in expressing emotion requires :
I admire dentists who do a job that is probably my worst nightmare (can you tell?) followed closely behind by podiatrists. Don’t get me started on feet!
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