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Howard Todd-Collins

Grad.Dip.Couns.HS, M.Couns.HS, Counsellor/Psychotherapist, Consultant MACA Howard is the director and owner of Men and Relationships Counselling. He passionately believes that given the right space and environment, men open up and talk about their lives in a way that empowers them to take steps to change. He has a strong connection to the growth of men, with over 15 years experience in designing individual and group programs for men and fathers as well as facilitating human relations groups. Go to > http://menandrelationships.com.au/about-us/consultants/ and Learn About Our Consultants – What We Do And Why

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Masculinity – What kind of man are you?

Have you ever been asked this question?

Depending on who is asking it and how it’s being delivered it could be loaded with pressure, judgement and a dig at your masculinity.

Or, it could have a more gentle tone of curiosity and reflection, which is my aim here!

When a bloke enters a counselling room he changes! Hey, that’s some powerful room!

His decision to seek a better understanding of himself is also the first step of changing the way he sees his masculinity.

This comes with a dilemma and the sorting through some important questions:

  • Am I supposed to uphold the role of providing and protecting my tribe?
  • Is it that I need to always be brave and strong? Even when I’m tired, scared and confused?
  • Do I show my emotions or stay stoic and silent?
  • Isn’t being a hard worker enough to prove my manhood?
  • Isn’t being a good mate enough?

Big questions, neither of which has a simple answer. Yet they go to the very core of defining what it means to be a man.

The meaning of masculinity

In a recent article that appeared on The Good Men Project website the author wrote about how he conducted a survey of 8th Graders in the US.

He asked them to complete the sentence ‘Being a man to me means…’.

Here are some of the responses:

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Consistent themes

Themes of protection, providing, strength, bravery and courage stand out in these mini definitions of manhood.

There are also many ‘being’ or ‘doing’ statements. Most of which are important and useful.

However, maybe unsurprisingly there’s not much that describes the emotional world of men.

It is my experience when men feel proud, strong and courageous in their emotional skin they enjoy huge relief, a lightness of being, strength in confidence and more authentic power in managing life.

It’s this meaning of manhood that we need to teach our kids, particularly boys?

What kind of man are you?

Howard Todd-Collins

Grad.Dip.Couns.HS, M.Couns.HS, Counsellor/Psychotherapist, Consultant MACA Howard is the director and owner of Men and Relationships Counselling. He passionately believes that given the right space and environment, men open up and talk about their lives in a way that empowers them to take steps to change. He has a strong connection to the growth of men, with over 15 years experience in designing individual and group programs for men and fathers as well as facilitating human relations groups. Go to > http://menandrelationships.com.au/about-us/consultants/ and Learn About Our Consultants – What We Do And Why

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Written by: Howard Todd-Collins

Howard Todd-Collins

Grad.Dip.Couns.HS, M.Couns.HS, Counsellor/Psychotherapist, Consultant MACA Howard is the director and owner of Men and Relationships Counselling. He passionately believes that given the right space and environment, men open up and talk about their lives in a way that empowers them to take steps to change. He has a strong connection to the growth of men, with over 15 years experience in designing individual and group programs for men and fathers as well as facilitating human relations groups. Go to > http://menandrelationships.com.au/about-us/consultants/ and Learn About Our Consultants – What We Do And Why

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