We Understand Women Too
At Men and Relationships Counselling we are specialists in working with men and encouraging them to participate in counselling either individually or with their partner. In order to do that successfully we also understand women and their particular needs.
Whilst women tend to seek out support of friends, family, work colleagues and partners this may not always be enough for them to truly understand and work through underlying issues.
Some common issues discussed by women at MRC include:
|Parenting||Self-care||Power and control|
|Boundary setting||Abuse||Body image|
|Assertiveness||Self harm||Self Esteem|
When Your Partner Doesn’t Want To Go To Counselling
We consult with many male clients who are ‘referred’ at the request of their partner. In our experience this can have mixed outcomes. Some men who participate reluctantly don’t always stay the distance, and bail out. Other men get past this hurdle very quickly and experience a validating and enlightening therapeutic discussion.
Generally, when men take responsibility in initiating counselling, the outcomes are likely to be more effective and life-long. However, it’s extremely common for women in a serious, committed relationship to be with a partner who is reluctant to seek counselling as an option. If this is your experience, here are some important things for you to keep in mind:
All of our MRC consultants are skilled in working with women who are experiencing both individual and relationship problems.
People don’t change unless they want to
As frustrating as this can be, you simply can’t make someone change. You can’t create motivation on another person’s behalf. An individual needs to be self-motivated if lasting change is to occur.
Nagging gets you nowhere
The desire to help someone you love can sometimes cause us to nag, plead and urge. However, doing so may only leave you and your partner frustrated.
Seek to understand
There may be a number of reasons your partner refuses to consider seeking help. Read About Men and the challenges they face to learn about some common reasons why men resist getting help. Understanding why your partner is resistant may help you know how to approach counselling in a different way.
Explain why you are concerned
Aim to calmly, rationally and empathetically discuss what you observe in your partner and share your concerns. Talk about how you believe that counselling will help. Pick the right time and place, then explain your point of view.
Lead by example
Go to therapy yourself and tell your partner what you’re learning and how you’re growing. They may then understand about the enormous benefits of counselling and choose to partake themselves.