Or is there?
For some men, expressing emotion drops down the pecking order of priorities and their mental health, and relationship health suffers.
Understanding the value of emotion in life is a key factor in high emotional intelligence. Naturally this gets tested as life throws you the proverbial curve ball straight where it hurts!
Emotional Intelligence includes the ability:
His moods, behaviour and capacity to cope with the stress and strains of life are severely tested.
Indeed, the research highlights that Emotional Intelligence is a better predictor of life satisfaction than IQ!
As a child your level of emotional intelligence emerged through those early years.
Your degree of EQ is a result of interactions between your own innate temperament and the emotional environment in which you grew up.
Your parents and caregivers will have naturally influenced you, for better or worse!
They will have done so by how they:
Dr John Gottman is a psychologist and relationships expert with 40 plus years of breakthrough research on marriage, relationships and parenting.
He has written numerous books on the topic of healthy emotions/healthy relationships such as The Heart of Parenting and Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child. I highly recommend them.
They also found that how parents managed stress, being too busy, distracted, and overwhelmed combined with their own temperament and background, significantly shaped their responses to their children.
You and I were the beneficiaries of all this!
Through the research, John Gottman and others developed one of the most powerful parenting styles that enhance kids Emotional Intelligence.
Emotion Coaching provides a great guide for blokes to recognise emotion and build closeness and intimacy in relationships.
They also help us develop a high degree of emotional intelligence, a happier more content life and long term secure relationship.
Here’s a quick guide: